FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is a DECISION to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge of a wrong done to one.
At one point or the other in our lives, we have been hurt so deeply that to forgive was a huge problem. I am not saying this because im perfect or havent had issues with forgiveness. If you must know, i have had housed unforgiveness, resentment for years and was looking forward to revenge in one way or the other.

Like a popular saying goes, "to err is human, to forgive is divine". Hmmm, it trully is divine. There are situations that have occured in our lives that has caused us to hold people or even ourselves in the prison of our hearts.

I am not promising you a perfect life, so long we are human beings, get ready to be hurt. Take a look at the time Jesus was asked, how many times should one forgive his brother his wrong doings in a day? Our Lord said 70 X 7. Wow!!!! 490times? has anyone ever offended you for that amount of time in a day? If your answer is Yes, come here, we need to pray for you real hard if possible fast. Some of you may laugh here, but my dear its serious.

In this episode of Forgiveness, i'm not talking about someone stepped on your toe, someone took your pen, someone ate your food. I am talking of real hurt that you almost gave up on Life. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.

I heard this and you should hear it too. "When someone offends you they take your power from you, when you dont forgive them, they keep the power with them. If anyone can change your mood from happy to sad, laughter to cry, change your route from right to left, that one has power over you. The moment you forgive such a one, you collect your power from them." That power you got back is the power to be happy, to laugh, the power to keep walking in the direction of the offender head up high and you are ready to help him/her.

You say, "I cannot forgive him, he just jilted me for another, i cannot forgive her, she betrayed me, i cannot forgive him, he was never there as a father for me, i will not forgive her, she abandoned me while i was a baby". What do you want to do now that you dont wanna forgive? The funniest thing is that the offender has moved on, probably forgotten that he/she had offended you. Im not saying its easy, but i am here to tell you to Sit, think and decide to forgive. Letting go of grudges and bitterness can make way for compassion, kindness and peace. Some physical benefits includes:

 

• Lower blood pressure
• Promote healthier relationships
• Reduces depression
• Great psychological well-being.
• It makes you free.
• It gives inner peace.

I decided one day after the death of a close friend that what is one living for, if at the end of life's race you are turned back, all because a spot of unforgiveness or a wrinkle of resentment was found on your gown. I told God in tears that I forgive everyone who had wronged me(both major hurts and minor hurts), i released them from the prison of my heart. I asked him to put in me genuine love for them, one that i can pray for them, help them and i told him to make it evident.
Before i tell you How to forgive, let me inform you that Forgiveness is a process, its a healing of the mind so it takes some time. Be careful not to go that same way that brought about that hurt in the first place. For example, you talk alot and you told someone some confidential things and you started to hear it all around, therefore you got hurt. My darling, forgive and you know what? dont go back telling such a fellow another deep thing because you might hear it outside again and you would get hurt again. Especially if the person never saw what he/she did as wrong. You have just saved yourself a trailer load of hurt.

"I want to forgive everyone that has hurt me, i dont just know how." Alright, let do this;
DECIDE. I am not going to be a victim anymore, no human is gonna have any power over me and make me their toy of offence. Dont say I will forgive with time, you dont own your life, God does. This takes us to the next path which is;
OBEY. Hmmm. God is not a partial God, so he wont repent of his word.
"When you stand to pray, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him. Then your father in heaven will forgive your sins also." (Mark 11:25) "But i tell you, love those who hate you. (Respect and give thanks for those who say bad things to you. Do good to those who hate you.) Pray for those who do bad things to you and who make it hard for you. Then you may be the sons of your father who is in heaven. His sun shines on bad people and on good people. He sends rain on those who are right with God and on those who are not right with God."(Mat 5:44-45) " Do no say, i will punish wrongdoing. Wait on the Lord, and he will take care of it." (Prov 20:22).

Faith,
Obedience,
Righteousness,
Grace,
Inheritance,
Victory,
Edify.
You should know that forgiveness is not easy on your own. You have to tell HIM who forgives all sins to come help you in this. He is available, just page him and he will be right there to begin the operation that will bring about the healing of your mind which will in return bring life and health to you.
The Last and most important benefit of Forgiveness is that God will forgive you all your sins and you will in the end save your soul from damnation. "If you forgive people their sins, your Father in heaven will forgive your sins also."(Mat 6:14)
Gradually make it a habit to forgive everyday, and you wouldnt go to bed with any iota of hurt.
Don't do false forgiveness, do FULL and TRUE forgiveness.

...Beautiful Inside...