gender worth - feminine II

A beautiful week to you all and most of all the end of the 7th month of the year. we are so thankful to God for his keeping grace upon us, our families, friends, loved ones and everyone. if it were not for the mercy of God where would we have been?

we started talking about gender worth last week, we will wrap it up quickly here...this is to the ladies(single and preparing). a popular belief by some people of little or no worth is "virginity is lack of opportunity" i have heard this a lot of times and some of you can bear witness to this. the right version of that is "virginity is dignity"

it is natural that we get attracted to the other gender and this attraction is in various ways and forms, it varies in individuals. don't get carried away, some say i'm only admiring him. Yes that is the beginning, how you handle your emotions here is what qualifies your worthiness.

it has been termed that ladies are gullible, i don't blame them because its true to a large percentage especially in our emotional life. this part of our life must be guarded with all jealousy. some ladies have lost it and it cannot be regained....mind you it can be gained spiritually but how about the physical...the scar cannot be erased.

as a lady in waiting and not for long, preserve yourself, don't get deceived or even carried away. yes he is going to marry you but what he is asking for now is his tomorrow which he wanna taste of today. don't be a recipe in the hand of so-called fiance or boyfriends. if a relationship has not been sealed legally, it shouldn't be sealed spirit, soul and body. a relationship where your body is involved is dishonoring and it shows that such a lady or a girl has no worth left.

one of my pastors whose messages has really been of great value to my life said and i paraphrase "any man that lays with you before you are legally joined as husband and wife will never trust you and will turn you to a punching bag once you are married" yes i concur, "if you can sleep with me before we are married, how do you defend you aren't sleeping with any other man even now that we are married". we are always at the receiving end. sometimes they ask for it to see if you would compromise. i'm sure you have heard of people who don't married to their fiancee just because they agreed to lay with him before the assigned day.

remember the scripture says "marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled". a presentation was sent to me by a colleague, it had to do with a woman's worth, oh how true but it can be gone in some minutes of pleasure.

do you know how much worth you have in the eyes of your husband when he meets you kept? take a survey, ask men who married kept wives, they will tell you how worthy their wives are. funny enough, there  was this day in my office when they were discussing about age and sex, some said sex is medically approved for people of a certain age. "oh what nonsense, people trying to justify why SIN must be committed"

the men get away with a lot of things, its difficult to know a defiled man, but it is so easy to discover a defiled woman. this has led to so many problems in homes (christian homes inclusive). dear friends, keep yourself and preserve your worth...you would smile at the end of waiting.

to those who are "oh i have lost it, do i have any worth left?" you can still have this worth we talking about, realize and repent, get back on your feet, stand tall with your head high up and ask for God's leading and direction. for those who still have it, dont be so confident of yourself and think you are perfect, remember "let him that thinks he stands take heed lest he falls" God will keep everyone of us that we would not only be worthy on earth, but he would count us worthy to enter his kingdom at last. AMEN!!!

i love you all and feel free to post your comments and word of encouragement. see you soon
God bless you.

gender worth - feminine I

we have lived in a world where there has been a huge discrimination among gender in all areas of life - morally, socially, educationally and a host of others.

thank God for this era of technology where we can say "what a man can do, a woman can do better" as it is commonly said. now, we have women who have risen to great and notable positions in our community, our nation and the world at large.

beyond just circular recognition of feminine worth, there is the spiritual realization of feminine worth. funny as it may seem, the latter encompasses all other classes of feminine worth. "show me a woman that knows her worth in God's standard and i will show you a woman whose worth is inestimable".

in the beginning after God has created all things and man inclusive, he looked and said (Gen 2:18 nkjv) "...it is not good that man should be alone; i will make him a helper comparable to him." there was the beast of the field, the birds of the air, the cattle and all other living creature, but none of these was comparable to him(man). vs 21, God caused a deep sleep to fall on man and from one of his ribs, woman was made.

has it occurred to you that God could have also created woman from the dust of the ground, the same way he created man, instead God made woman out of man's rib. (Note: woman was made/formed) all she needs to be of inestimable worth lives in her. as a result, this points out the important role the feminine gender plays in the masculine world and the entire world we live in.

from the day a girl child is born, she knows her role and importance, it is the little girl that wants to play with the dolls, put the doll at her back just like the mother, cook food in containers, buy things with paper money and all those things you and i did(sure u can remember...lol). when she sees another baby, she wants to carry him/her not minding that they would fall. she is the one that would share her food at school with another, will want you to buy same thing you got for her for a friend.

too bad, some have lost this WORTH just after childhood and some are on the verge of loosing it.

in our next discussion, we would look at - after childhood: does she still have any worth left?

at teen

To dad/mum

now, some of them are experiencing early puberty. the girl between ages 11 and 12 have started menstruating, and the guy's voice is already cracking. at this stage, bring the word of God to them more often.
Remember he/she may have given his/her life to Christ maybe at age 4, but now he is going to experience peer pressure so much that he/she would almost believe the wrong to be the right.
Teach them, how to experience God for themselves, let them find the truth in the Bible. Don't compare them with other people in church or in the community. always remind them of "what would Jesus do". at this stage u can either make or mar their future or better said, you can push them to making wrong decisions that they would regret and curse u or right decisions that they would appreciate and bless u all the days of their life.

To teens.

some are already out of school, dear the choice you make at this stage of your life matters.
its at this time we decide

• what do i wanna be?
• how do i become what i wanna be?
• what course do i study?
• which school do i enroll into?
• who should i make friends with?
• who do i love among all these?
• who am i?
• whats my temperament?
• who do i marry?
• and on and on and on.

the question keeps coming and coming at this stage of our lives.
We would talk on them one after the other.
Do well to make comments, ask questions and God will help me do my best in giving the right answers, and where i can't we will find the answers in the bible.

Welcome to BEAUTIFUL INSIDE, a place to learn and share how to be yourself beautiful and wonderful as you were created. its your inside we see on your outside.

before 3

"train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he would not depart from it."

when a child looses his/her mom at childbirth, sometimes we think that such children are out for a bad future because there would be no guidance or leading and that the father wouldn't be so perfect as to lead as the mom would. God said he is the father of the fatherless, and mother to those without one. "Though your father and mother may forsake u, i will not leave you nor forsake u". Isaiah said "can a woman forget her suckling child not to give him food?" how much more God.
Children observes, what they see you do, they would one day do....they don't have to be old. A small boy of about 1year and 2 months had his hand in water and rubbing them against on another as though he was washing clothes....we were all stunned, he has seen his mom washing and has observed so well. Another little girl was on her mom's back and her mom spat, after some minutes, she spat also....she picked that up from her mom.
From their baby stage, they start to observe especially their father, mother, nannies, brothers, sisters and even outsiders. As they grow, they watch and observe all the more.
You child is what he sees and observe in u.